Marriage is a sacred relationship between a man and a woman. Faithfulness to the other is one of the essences of this relationship. Infidelity is an act of having emotional attachment or sex outside the marriage and is unfaithfulness to the companion. Both men and women can be involved in this. Research has been done on this subject to ascertain the reasons, and infidelity is widely talked about subject on TV and other public media, but not much has been said and written about the psychology of infidelity.
Let us now discuss the psychology.
It has been found that insecurity in marriage is one of the main reasons of infidelity. This may be due to the feeling of one that his spouse is inferior or not worth. This leads to development of a complex in the mind that the marriage is not going to last for long, leading to insecurity about future after the marriage ends. The adulterator thus tries to indulge in the act of infidelity thinking that in case of separation he or she will have someone to rely upon.
The thought of having control over the other leads to infidelity. In marriage a partner may not have control over the other, despite wanting to do so. In such circumstances the adulterator may choose someone easily controllable and indulge in the act of infidelity.
In addition to exercising control over the other, there may be wide differences between the couple. These may creep up due to the circumstances they are placed in, domestic conditions or even official constraints. They result in abuse or fights in marriage. It may prompt the one oppressed to find peace of mind outside marriage. This is generally the reason cited by women for infidelity.
Neglect of one by the other may lead to the other indulging in act of infidelity. Neglect may be intentional or unintentional. Sometimes as a result of long association one gets bored of the other. They communicate less, even love and care desired in marriage is reduced. Often sex in marriage gets neglected. To come out of this frustration the oppressed often tries to find a caring person and consequential infidelity. Neglected people often form a group to discuss the problems and as a result of this it become easier to find companion.
Though some work has been done on this subject still psychology of infidelity needs a lot of study and research. Often one blames the partner for his wrong act without realising his own fault. Being considerate to the other will lead to better understanding and faith.